I'm not sure exactly what month I started this process, I think it was October. We were hoping to have our marriage convalidated on our civil anniversary, but I never heard back from the church secretary about my dispensation to marry outside of the church, so I figured it hadn't gone through yet. Then the holidays happened, and once those were over she was on vacation, and I finally got ahold of her yesterday.
She told me I needed to come in to sign some papers, have some other people fill out some other papers about us, and that she'd call me back after talking to Father about a date. She also asked me a million questions that I had already discussed with her on numerous occasions.
So, then she calls me back today and exclaims, "Well, Kyle isn't baptized!!" Lady, I know that, and I've told you that on numerous occasions. She said we needed to wait until he was baptized. I said, "Uh, no, that's why we filed the dispensation." She was like, "You would've needed that regardless." Me, "........."
So, I explained to her, again that I was not looking for sacramental marriage, I knew that that would be the case after he is baptized, but that I was looking to have it convalidated so that I would be in communion with the Church. She said that's not possible. I asked her then what exactly would happen if he WEREN'T in RCIA? I'm not allowed to marry outside of the Church? Nonsense. I don't understand why this woman does not understand the importance of this. Yes, we screwed up and got ourselves into a mess. But we've been trying to fix it for months. WHY.IS.THAT.SO.HARD?
She said she'd call the diocese and get back to me in a bit. What?
Guess who didn't call me back.